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You Can’t Do it All…and That’s OK

I remember driving back one night to my apartment with my then-boyfriend. He was asking me what I had planned that week. I mentioned a programming meeting with the committee I served on, a young alumni board meeting for my alma mater, choir rehearsal, a therapist appointment, and likely an event for a board I wanted to join. We were only about a year into our relationship back then. I remember the look of surprise on his face.

“Wow, you’ve got a lot going on!”

“A lot” was an understatement. I’m someone who lives off of being busy. Do I succeed at my busyness? On rare occasion, sure, but it’s really not where I thrive. In my 20-some years of life, it’s one of the hardest things for me to just…slow down.

A few years later, after more dating, more transparency, and more honesty, I talked to my boyfriend about how I was going to drop from one organization, but then add on more responsibility to another board position. He looked at me like I was crazy.

“How many of these ‘roles’ are you doing at 100%?”

I just looked at him. I hadn’t thought of it like that. I mean, I wasn’t doing any of the roles poorly, but was I giving them my all? Could I give each role my all?

Of course not.

It’s taken multiple years of therapy  (and one patient fiance’) to arrive to a point where not only I see the importance of slowing down, but I also feel the value on my mental, physical, and spiritual health. Now, instead of dashing off to whatever board meeting I have tonight, I can kick back and work on some calligraphy, write another blog post, or head to adoration. Or even, head to bed early! (What?!?) I know my body would appreciate the break!

How do you take care of you?